Me and my boyfriend have started to get close emotionally as a couple. He was telling me how he feels so connected to me after a short pan of 5 months and usually he gets these feelings after a year of being with a woman.
He has changed a lot since being with me such as : stopping cigarette smoking, becoming celibate since im a virgin, and overall being totally open emotionally.
Well when ever we are around each other bonding I get the weird sensation in my heart its hard to explain. Im emotionally good at the moment and the feeling isn’t painful but it isn’t enjoyable either. It comes when we talk of a future together such as marriage and potential children or whenever im feeling close to him.
Anyone else ever experienced this feeling and if so any idea of what it means?
Chosen Answer:
It sounds like you are nervous about the future, and maybe unsure that you want to discuss these things so soon or even have them with this particular man. You are probably skeptical about committing to such far off plans with this guy. I also sense a hint of trust issues, since he’s changed so much for you. I understand this because my boyfriend quit drinking for me, and he’s had to ward off friend after friend inviting him to parties or offering him drinks. Sex is a hard thing for a guy to give up once he’s started, but it’s very much possible.
Take things one step at a time and be true with yourself. Can you see yourself having those future things with this man? Would you be happy if it actually happened?
I began to look at things in this way and I realized how lucky I truly am to be with my boyfriend. We discuss marriage and children on a regular basis but are waiting to finish college before making anything concrete.
